Sorry Karen,

I was having a bad day. The day I saw the title to this post, I was looking for some encouragement from a single woman's point of view of someone who's never been married and never had kids befeore.

--->Trying too hard was never my problem:

For me, I was just not being strong enough to stay single while preparing myself for a "better life" for myself. That was my problem. All that F-ing around and dating around just for the fun of it caught up to me.

All of it was just a distraction from my pathetic life.

-->The issue with being single in my mid to late 40s:

I mean...the one thing I have to try harder to do right now is rebuild my friendship circle. I had no one to lean on when I tried to leave a bad relationship in my early 40s. So that made being single at this age a LOT harder.

It really isn't as easy as in my 20s when half my friends were single too and didn't mind hanging as "just friends" and not expecting sex.

Julie, a freelance copywriter since 2005, comes out of hiding. She now publishes content with her face and name on it for the first time in 15+ years.

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